Contempo Condoms http://www.contempo.co.za/index.php/blog en info@contempo.co.za Copyright 2010 2010-04-21T08:09:21+02:00 The more we practice… http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/the_more_we_practice/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/the_more_we_practice/ As I’m sure you’ve noticed by now, us girls are wired rather differently to you boys. Us girls have many more toys to play with, however they are a lot more subtle! So here is the low down; guys generally have a very specific way of masturbating and/or reaching orgasm that was developed fairly early on in life, and which varies little from episode to episode. It’s fast, it’s efficient and it works - when masturbating, women are generally the same, the problem is that penetration does not normally allow a woman to orgasm. Clitoral and G-spot stimulation does though! This means that most women are able to orgasm while masturbating, but battle to orgasm during penetrative sex.

 

The answer is simple, to bring your woman to multiple orgasms, you need to play and play and play - the longer the better. If you want to try and get her to orgasm in another ways, try varying the kinds of stimulation you use. Start with the vibrator, then switch to using your hand, your partner’s hand, a less-powerful vibe, or a lower setting on the regular toy as she gets closer to orgasm. Mix it up a bit, alternating the different kinds of touch as you get her more aroused. Initially, you might need to switch back to the “thing” that works best for her in order to get her to orgasm, but as time goes on you should find that she becomes more responsive to different kinds of stimulation. Another way is to ask her to show you what works best for her and then do exactly what she did!

Mwa!

]]> 2010-04-21T08:09:21+02:00 Today is the reason! http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/today_is_the_reason/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/today_is_the_reason/ So how are all my Boys doing?

I recently came across a Billy Crystal quote… “Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place!”… and after giggling like a girl, I was musing to myself about how true or untrue this is. In truth most women do need a reason. Emotionless, ABC, mechanical, one-night-stand sex is sooo ‘2000 and late’. There really is something to be said for great connection with the other person before play and penetration. Intensity is the name of the game, it is the difference between a ‘blow your socks off’ orgasm and just a run of the mill ‘could have done that myself’ orgasm.

Oh and Boys, the more we practice the more orgasms we have (more on that next time!) In this new decade let’s work on the connection, put away our stereotypes - because the truth is that we all need a reason and a place - burn the scented candles, use the nice sheets, use the condoms & toys - look deeply into her eyes - and go for the intensity… Don’t save it for a special occasion or wait for a reason. Today is the reason!

Mwa!

]]> 2010-02-10T10:38:37+02:00 Merry Christmas Boys! http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/merry_christmas_boys/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/merry_christmas_boys/

Reducing stress can make a huge difference to your life, not only to your physical health, but to your mental and emotional wellbeing too; making life easier at work, home and in social situations. Reducing stress is one of the healthiest things you can do for yourself. And the good news is that orgasm is a top stress reliever!

So with the sometimes stressful holidays upon us, here are some sexy holiday tips for you to get more action, as well as a satisfying way of reducing your stress:

·      Let go - of all your stress, inhibitions, bad habits and negative attitude

·      Have fun - if it brings you joy (or brings her joy), go there!

·      Be spontaneous - it’s the holidays, do things that you wouldn’t normally do - I dare you!

·      Use your natural talents - no need to read a ‘how to’ magazine article, you know what you are doing, have some faith in yourself!

·      Try new things - different positions, furniture, times of the day, places - the possibilities are endless

·      Play - with her, with toys, with you, with condoms… what are you waiting for?

Here’s to a sex filled holiday and a brand new set of 365 days to discover and take pleasure in your and her sexuality!

Mwa!

]]> 2009-12-18T11:00:52+02:00 Continued Pleasure http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/continues_pleasure/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/continues_pleasure/  

Hey Boys!

Magazines, TV and friends all have a lot to say about what works and what doesn’t work in the bedroom. Most sex tips we get are meaningless though, unless you are a contortionist or sex toy. So for the rest of us, here are some basic tips to ensure continued pleasure…

Ask for what you want - that way you are more likely to get it

  • Masturbate - if you don’t know what turns you on, you can’t ask for it
  • Lubricate - moisture always helps
  • Condomise - put a condom on it
  • Use sex toys - never knock a sex toy until you’ve tried it
  • File your fingernails - seriously
  • Stay connected - if you’re bored, hit the fast forward button

Remember that sexual pleasure is a matter of individual preference however if you stick to these basics you cannot go wrong!

Mwa!

]]> 2009-10-27T11:13:39+02:00 Let’s go shopping! http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/lets_go_shopping/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/lets_go_shopping/ When last did you go shopping for sex toys? Or are you still one of the men who believe that toys compete with your masculinity? I recently went to an adult shop and was aghast at some of the men’s reactions which ranged from sheer terror to complete glee, with a few bulging eyes thrown in for good measure. In fact the vibrator has a lot to teach you - such as where and how to stimulate her. Think about it, instead of having to guess where the G-spot is or what lights her fire, give her a toy and then sit back and watch. Actually the same concept applies to you - what better way for her to learn what works for you than for her to watch you please yourself. Masturbating together is both mind blowing and educational and using toys together is far more pleasurable than using them on your own. And if that’s not your cup of tea then try a vibrating ring which ensures pleasure for both of you. We are all still kids at heart, so let’s go play with toys!!

 

Mwa!

]]> 2009-07-22T13:16:26+02:00 Who’s in the mood for something new? http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/whos_in_the_mood_for_something_new/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/whos_in_the_mood_for_something_new/ Most of us have fallen into a predictable sexual routine. You can already guess where your hand will go first, what she will touch next and where it will all end up. Boring! Let’s step it up a notch!

First step is to get out of your comfort zone and become daring. Second step is to let your partner know that it’s time to turn up the heat and then the fun can start.

Develop the parts of yourself that have been hidden or that you rarely show. Even better pretend to be someone completely different. Role playing is a safe way to do, ask for and receive all the things that you are afraid to try. Ask her who she would like to be – the stern school teacher, the helpless slave, the naughty nurse. Find out who she would like you to be – a sexy army officer, a dashing superhero, a heavy metal rock star. Explore your fantasies!

If you are still a bit shy, try this… make up a few ‘vouchers’ with descriptions of things that you want done to you or of things that you want to do to her. Make them beautiful (stick a topic specific condom on it, like Bareback, Rough Rider or Wet ‘n Wild) and leave them, one at a time, in strategic places, then watch the magic happen.

Mwa!

]]> 2009-04-29T08:47:20+02:00 Happy Valentines Boys! http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/happy_valentines_boys/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/happy_valentines_boys/ Love is in the air, and if you would like to get some use out of your condoms, here’s what not to say, on Valentines day! (or anytime really)

• Hi. I suffer from amnesia. Do I come here often?
• I’m sorry, were you talking to me? (No.) Well then, please start.
• Was your father an alien? Because there’s nothing else like you on Earth!
• Are you busy tonight at 3:00 A.M.?
• What’s a nice boy/girl like you doing in a place like this?
• What time do you have to be back in heaven?
• You must be a hell of a thief because you stole my heart from across the room.
• I seem to have lost my number - can I have yours?

Stay away from cheesy pick up lines! And another thing, don’t call her honey, sweetheart, babes, gorgeous or sexy unless she’s your girlfriend and she has a pet name for you too.

It may be an old cliché, but “just be yourself” still holds true. There is nothing sexier than a man who knows he’s a real man and can sweep a woman off her feet without being pushy or cheesy.

A real man oozes confidence without being arrogant; never takes a woman for granted and always has her best interest at heart. If she’s happy, you will be happy!

Mwa!

]]> 2009-01-30T07:01:19+02:00 Happy Holidays Boys! http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/happy_holidays_boys/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/happy_holidays_boys/ It’s that time of the year again, the time when you madly scramble to get that special lady a sexy gift. So what to buy your lover or soon to be lover for Christmas?  Here are a few tips to keep her interested and to make you unforgettable…

1. Make sure it’s for her pleasure, not just yours (a power tool is not for her!)
2. If it’s sexy underwear, get the size right! (go through her cupboard and make sure of the label and the size that works for her! Without commenting…)
3. Think about who else will be around when she opens this sexy gift. Vibrators, sexy lingerie, condoms and lubricants are not for kids eyes (rather let her open those in private - it’s more fun that way)
4. Unless it’s a big bling object, many little gifts are a good idea (the more the merrier)
5. Gift ideas can be any (or all!) of the following:

Sexy underwear - make those fantasies come true
Sex toys - anything with batteries is always successful
Lubricants - edible or not, it ensures a smooth ride
Condoms - get different varieties for those varying moods
Scented candles - the way to set the mood for all night pleasure
Edible body paint - chocolate covered bodies, yummy
Sexy DVD - get turned on together
Massage oils - nothing like foreplay for her to want you more
Sexy music CD - just put it on repeat so that you can go on and on

So, set the mood (put on some music, light some candles, have champagne on hand) and let your lady open her gifts of love making. Then it’s time for you both to play and have fun! Merry, merry!

Mwa!

]]> 2008-12-19T06:54:59+02:00 Ok boys, let’s play! http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/ok_boys_lets_play/ http://www.contempo.co.za/site/blog/article/ok_boys_lets_play/ So here’s a sexy welcome to my new blog. Here we can talk about anything - well sexually related anything of course. If you are an energetic, healthy male, you are part of the population that is constantly asking “why?“... Why does she do that? Why does she say this? Why doesn’t she want to do that? Why, why, why??? And here’s where I give you some insight into those eternal questions.

I am endlessly amazed when the men in my life say things like “man, that was awesome”, while I’m thinking “man, was that it?“ So how do you know when she’s satisfied? How do you know that she will come back for more? And not because she didn’t get it in the first place but because you made her world tilt? It’s quite simple - you will know that she’s done when you have spent more time on her than on you! Don’t be afraid of foreplay. Boring foreplay to you could mean multiple orgasms for her! Think about it as using the tools you’ve been given… not the tool you’ve been given!

Dr K’s tip of the week - It’s all in the technique - it’s not what you have, it’s what you do with it. The idea that size counts is simply not true. Luckily, you have many other body parts that can make up for a shortfall in that area - use them! Your fingers and your tongue alone can make her smile for days! Mwa!

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